Charlotte’s Dating Rules: Unfriend the Ex

March 16, 2009 by Charlotte Daniels
Filed under: Advice 

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Parting ways with someone who’s seen you wearing only socks is never an easy or pleasant experience. Trust me, I’ve been there on a few occasions and though it is usually me laying out the line “it’s not you, it’s me” , I do still feel the occasional pang when I see the new happy life of the ex in bright Technicolor on my facebook feed.

I’m often un-friended on Facebook before I even have the time to drive home after breaking up. Blocked even. I’m not sure what that says about me as a girlfriend.

I have recently come to the conclusion that unfriending is unfortunate, but a sad necessity of the situation. I don’t care about all of the hollering to the contrary, facebook or otherwise, you can’t be friends with your ex. There, I said it.
I would like to blatantly call foul on anyone that claims to be great friends with their exes. At least one of them is harboring some sort of itch to rekindle the flame. You can’t be intimate with someone and then go back to the world of discussing work and the economy, all the while keeping your hands to yourself.

I have only one ex that I consider a great friend and talk to on a regular basis. Sure, we talk about our respective love lives and give advice on new conquests, however, we live on different coasts and he often requests that I take my shirt off on my webcam and while I’m in town visiting ask if we can have “the sexy sex”.

So yeah, we’re friends.

If you are really intending on getting over an ex, unfriend them as soon as the relationship ends. It’s much easier to get on with your own life without getting happy glances into the life you just left behind.

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3 Comments on Charlotte’s Dating Rules: Unfriend the Ex

  1. Ginny on Mon, 23rd Mar 2009 3:21 pm

    2. Here Here! I like that. Get rid of the old trash. Unload and Move ON!!

  2. dana grace on Thu, 28th May 2009 8:42 am

    3. I have the same problem. How could you unfriend your best friend? Grrrr…. Especially if he keeps on telling you that you could only be friends, nothing more. Yet, he expects you to go out, together, just the two of you. I hate this

  3. Loretta on Tue, 30th Jun 2009 7:38 pm

    4. Absolutely. And might I add that BEFORE you unfriend him that you should remove your posts from his wall, his photos, his notes. If he’s the cause of the break up, he should get to keep your thoughts, your wit, and your insights. If you’re the cause of it, it will probably help him get over lamenting over you. Treat it like the old band-aid it is… RIPPPPPP.

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