Don’t Call Twice
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If she didn’t return your call the first time, she’s not likely to return it the second. Don’t be that guy.
A couple weeks ago a friend of mine called me to ask a “female opinion” question. He had met a girl while waiting in line at a pizza place sometime around 3am after the club and without asking, she had given him her number. Now, he’s a good looking guy with a fancy British accent to boot, but when he texted her a couple of days later, he got no reply.
He had called me to ask if he should call or text again. Sometimes there are technical problems where people just don’t get the message.
It hurt me a little to say it, but I had to be honest. She got it. For whatever reason, she didn’t reply and it’s not going to do him ANY good to text again. It’s not a technical problem.
Sorry.
Don’t waste your time speculating as to why he or she might not have returned the message. The simple fact is that they didn’t and you need to get along with your life.
To drive my point home, here’s a recent string of conversation that I had with a guy, on text and IM over a few days:
Him (Dec 29, 2:01pm): What are u doing for new years?
Me (Dec 29, 2:18pm): Probably Hollywood.
Him (Dec 29, 2:22pm): Think I’m going to viceroy.
Him (Dec 29, 6:31pm): Bodega later.
Him (Jan 3, 8:30pm): Hi u
Him (Jan 4, 3:34pm): Hi charlotte
Him (Jan 5, 8:09pm): Should I keep trying
Him (Jan 6, 2:31pm): hi
Him (Jan 6, 3:02pm): nuthin?
7 unreturned messages. So far past normal it’s absurd. Get the hint. You’ve entered stalkerville. Population: You.
Do you and yourself a favor and make a rule that you NEVER call or message more than once. You gave them a chance and they didn’t jump on your fabulous self the first time, so they don’t get a second chance.
You’ll both be better off.
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How to survive the wonderful world of online dating : Dating Blog, Tips & Advice by Inside Story Dating on
Sun, 25th Jan 2009 11:00 am
[...] 3. Be honest with someone when you’re not interested. This is something you should follow in general, but it’s so much easier to ignore when you’re going out with people who you’ve met online. However, everyone’s 10 feet tall on the internet. I managed to get called a bitch for not responding to multiple text messages and IMs. [...]
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