How to survive the wonderful world of online dating
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I had a little bit too much time on my hands while home for the holidays and I managed to do some serious damage on a few online dating sites.
First of all…I felt odd about the fact that I was meeting guys online instead in bars, the way that god intended. I really have no problem meeting guys in real life, but I just haven’t had much time to go out to bars, so the idea of thumbing through a catalog of men and seeing their pedigree up front was an idea that appealed to me.
A few of them look totally cute, educated, intelligent, funny, but as I’m learning, a 2-dimensional profile will never tell you everything that you want to know about someone.
I went on 4 dates with guys that I met online. None of them were fantastic, most of them plain sucked and one of them has left me with a sour stomach that made me immediately run home and delete my profile.
Here are some tips that I picked up along the way of charting this unknown territory.
1. Don’t be ashamed to say you’re dating online. When I actually opened up and talked about it, there were more people than I ever expected admitting to surfing the internets for true love. Or at least just a good lay.
2. Meet as soon as possible. Don’t talk over phone or IM. We as humans have this amazing ability to paint people to be exactly what we want them to be in our minds, so every little detail that they mention you will take as AMAZING PROOF YOU WERE MEANT TO BE.
3. Be honest with someone when you’re not interested. This is something you should follow in general, but it’s so much easier to ignore when you’re going out with people who you’ve met online. However, everyone’s 10 feet tall on the internet. I managed to get called a bitch for not responding to multiple text messages and IMs.
4. Don’t EVER commit to a dinner on a first date. There’s a pretty strong chance that you’re going to decide that you don’t like someone in the first 2 minutes. Dinner will only be an hour of your life that you will never get back. Extra points for mentioning something that you have to do immediately after the date so you have an easy exit.
5. Don’t get your hopes up. There is a much larger chance that you will spend the entire time crafting up extravagant schemes in your head so you can make a run for the door rather than thinking up names for your future offspring.
Even though I did have a somewhat awful experience with it, I’d still recommend trying it. I’m sure you’re a little curious. You only live once.
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The Men of Charlotte’s Online Dating Adventure : Dating Blog, Tips & Advice by Inside Story Dating on
Wed, 4th Feb 2009 6:18 pm
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