Men: Wolves on the Prowl
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Recently, I started seeing someone and my friends began to take notice. The most shocking thing was that one of my closest guy friends, Jack, literally cornered me at a birthday gathering to ask me about my new fling. He told me that after seeing me spend time with my new guy, he became jealous and realized that he’s in love with me. What!? Needless to say, I don’t feel the same way. I tried to convince myself (and him) that he had just had too many drinks but he wouldn’t let up. I didn’t see an easy way out. After two hours of explaining and deflecting advances, I finally escaped. In the following days I didn’t bring up that conversation and when he asked if he had offended me or done anything wrong that night I told him, “Don’t worry about it, we’re friends and we’ll just let it go.”
I did immediately approached two people about the incident however. I was hoping someone could shed light on the situation. One of them was another close guy friend. He wasn’t shocked at all. Jack’s pursuit totally made sense to him. Again, total shock! He said to me, “Well, that doesn’t surprise me at all. Of course you are the one we all see as the ideal. Every girl we date is compared to you. You are the most stable, amazing girl we all know.” Talk about getting the wind knocked out of you! I was flattered but I was really not expecting this again! I ended that discussion quickly before it turned into a pour-your-heart-out sequel.
My last resort was my friend, Elena. When I told her what happened with Jack she said one thing: Wolves. After announcing to the world that her marriage might be over, ex-boyfriends, long lost lovers, and guy friends swarmed her like a pack of wolves. There’s nothing more enticing than a woman who is taken by another man. When one wolf wants you, the entire pack wants you. They come drooling at the mouth and surround you.
What I wonder is, how much of it is genuine? Is it the realization that they may not get another chance with you that makes their heads turn? Or is it just the chase and the competition that excites them?
I would advise you men out there… if you are interested in someone, don’t wait for a time when they aren’t available (reality check: it’s a bit harder to win her over when she’s taken!) To the ladies who encounter this… stand your ground, let them down easily and privately – unless, however, you are interested! Jump on the opportunity before the pack disperses!
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Charlotte Daniels on
Thu, 5th Mar 2009 11:32 am
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Ginny on
Wed, 11th Mar 2009 6:36 pm
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Bergen Larsen on
Mon, 27th Apr 2009 9:21 am
Ugh, utter ridiculousness. It’s not genuine. It’s the chase.
I have soooo pulled this on occasion with guys I’ve broken up with once I’ve seen them with another girl. Once I get them back….I’m bored again.
Totally flattering that he spewed all his feelings all over you. Just take it as a massive compliment.
Men get so ‘ambitious’ when they have had a few drinks. Watch out for that and hopefully you haven’t had more than they have. But it is true, the chase is what it is all about. The Alpha Male (speaking of wolves) is very aggressive. You have to be an Alpha Female and stand your ground. Don’t give in right away to this ‘flattery’. The male likes to hunt and an easy catch is quickly forgotten! (or eaten up and spit out) Be tough girls and be true to yourselves!
Your friend Jack sounds like he spent way too long as your “friend” before he came up with the guts to tell you how he really feels. His loss.
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Strange – I found similar things happened to me after I broke up my most recent girlfriend. Although – I must say, men may be Wolves after prey that isn’t wounded or dead… women are vultures. 
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