Thanks but no thanks
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I smell like single. There is no other way to explain how I get asked out by totally random guys as much as I do. At Starbucks pouring my half and half, in line at the DMV, checking out at the supermarket and even one epic incident of a man stopping his car and getting out to ask me for my number on the street.
While very flattering, they’re never even remotely dateable. Ever. For once, I would like the gorgeous man in the pinstripe suit I’ve been eyeing across the room to make his way over and strike up a witty conversation.
Unfortunately, my life doesn’t want to seem to work out that way, so I often find myself in the awkward situation of trying to explain that I don’t ever want to have contact with any of these dudes again.
Most of you ladies know that it’s not as easy as it may seem.
I’m a polite person and I really don’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings by outright saying that I’m not interested. I’ve tried giving out a fake number but was once caught on that trick when I had my blackberry in my hand while we were still chatting and it failed to ring as he tried my number right in front of me.
Aaaaawwwkwaaaaaard.
I respect the fact that it took some courage to come up and ask a stranger for her number, I figure the most humane way is for him to call or text a couple times and when he gets no response to make up a million different reasons why I never returned the message.
Is this really that bad? If you have an idea of exactly how to politely duck out of giving someone your number, I’d love to hear it because I’m not really sure one exists.
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4 Comments on Thanks but no thanks
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rachel on
Fri, 27th Mar 2009 2:35 am
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Andrea Richards on
Fri, 27th Mar 2009 8:48 am
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Oliva on
Sun, 29th Mar 2009 11:29 am
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Ginny on
Sun, 29th Mar 2009 3:50 pm
OK this happens to me too.
What i do, is I get them to give ME their number and say I’ll call them.
That’s it. After all it’s what guys do to us right?
Be honest with people. What’s with all the wasted energy and leading people on everyone can’t be interested in everyone simple fact of life.
I completely know what you mean. I stick with honesty. “Look, I’m really flattered and it’s awesome that you were able to approach a random person to ask for my number but I’m not interested. Thanks though!” Maybe harsh to hear but at least you aren’t mean and you don’t have to put up with phone calls and texts from someone you annoyingly feel obligated to respond to.
It’s ok. Don’t feel guilty. You are ‘just not into him’. I agree with the last post response. Or if it makes you feel better, “I have too much on my plate at this time” ” I am all consumed” “I don’t want a relationship at this time” No other explanation is necessary. Seriously, if it was the other way around I don’t believe the man would feel the least bit sympathetic.
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